Posts Tagged ‘children’

Gymnastics Season

September 23, 2008 Leave a comment

My girls had their mock meet on Sunday.  This is going to be a good season.  This year’s mock meet was a far cry from last year where one of my daughters was ready to quit half way through the rotations.  This year, I saw grace and poise in their faces.  They were encouraging and reassuring the first year girls.  Oh yeah, their scores were much higher, also. 

I don’t want to minimize the importance of their scores or winning.  Being successful and doing your best is a major component of youth sports but it is only one component.  Winning at all costs at this level is just insane.  You can always find those parents that are flipping out if their kid is not the fastest, the stongest, or the best.  Those poor kids will be burnt out by age 16 or earlier. 

What I saw this Sunday reminded me of what is good about youth sports.  The lessons that these boys and girls are learning are not easily taught in a classroom.  I have seen a huge increase in my girls’ confidence, discipline, and self-reliance.  Their ability to follow directions has increased and they can now push beyond what they think they are capable of and actually find their limits. 

They will win some medals along the way and have a whole lot of fun.  Not a bad way to learn.


Things I Hope My Children Learn From Me

June 16, 2008 Leave a comment

Excellence is always the best policy
Life is a journey so enjoy the ride
There is no such thing as too much integrity
Sometimes doing the right thing is hard, but it is still right
Everything decision in life has consequenses, some good, some bad
What you do is not who you are
Be true to yourself
Be true to God
Dream big
Believe in yourself
No matter what, in every circumstance, your father will always love you

Gymnastics and Geekiness

June 1, 2008 4 comments

My son and two daughters, who are sporting their hardware from the meet.

I have hit the pinnacle of my geekdom! I am sitting in a coffee shop downloading something on my girls’ gymnastics coach’s computer and posting on my blog from my blackberry. I have to admit. I love being a geek. My wife even got into the act by homeschooling our son during breaks in the meet
Enough about me, my girls had a meet today in Millersville, MD. It was a smaller meet and the girls compete at next year’s level. Mine are staying level 4. Although the scores were not as high as states, they both collected more hardware than in any other meet this season! I think the judges kept the scores lower to allow the girls room for improvement. I could be totally wrong as it is nearly impossible for me to tell the difference between good and great in this sport. Bad is detectable in any sport.
Back to my girls, My youngest daughter scored a first, third, fourth, and third all around. My oldest scored a second, third, fourth and third all around. The big victory is that my oldest made the podium more today than any other meet, possibly more than she did all season. she couldn’t stop smiling! There are so many things I love about this sport but one of the biggest is that everyone gets their playing time. No matter if your are pulling 9.9s or 5.0s, you get the same amount of time. Don’t get me wrong, you have to have skills to even make it to the team, but once you’re there, you don’t have to ride the bench. All season, my girls have been in the middle or back of the pack and have progressed nicely as the year moved along. This have them a taste of what they might experience next year. They are building crazy strength, strong charictar, and good work habits. It’s nice to collect some hardware every once in a while, too.

Crazy Week!

May 29, 2008 Leave a comment

I apologize for not posting very regularly this week.  My plate has been full.  It has been great, but busy.  Our church worship team had the honor of providing worship music for the Laurel High School’s Baccalaureate service.  Things went very well.  It was a bit unnerving as I actually work for the school district.  Most employees know nothing of my guitar hero alter ego.  They simply know the mild mannered computer geek.  Well, maybe it would be more accurate to say that they did not know that their cranky computer geek plays guitar.  Anyway, I cannot shake the computer geek persona, even while wielding a Gibson axe.  Oh well, I was only asked two computer questions that night…

Wednesday night, our church’s drama team, Illuminate,  performed in Westover, MD.  I was asked to play two songs for the event and participate in a drama, which involved me playing the part of the Devil and getting beat up by a teenager.  My two daughters participate in the drama team.  They performed excellent!  Would you expect a different review from a proud dad? 

One of the dangers of having great talent in your church is that you start to get used to it.  We see dramas by Illuminate on an almost weekly basis.  I have watched them grow from a handful of people with an idea to a full team of adults, teens, complete with an entourage of around thirty people.  I have seen them move from trying really hard and doing good to working really hard and invoking real emotion and deep thought by those watching.  I have started to get used to it and even expect it.  The church in Westover was not used to it.  They were moved to shouts, praises, laughter, and even a few tears.  Our drama leaders should be extremely proud.  The team performed the best they ever have.  When you come to expect excellence, it is good to be reminded that it stands out. 

Parenthood and The Long Term Goals

May 23, 2008 1 comment

Being a father is an amazing thing.  If you have read over my blog, you can tell that my children are extremely important to me.  I’ve talked about homeschooling, gymnastics, and drama teams.  While each one of those things are important, they are all part of the greater goals that my wife and I have for our children. These goals include having a healthy Christ centered world view and being prepared to meet the challenges that they will face in adult life.  One of our greatest goals is that they have the ability to

It’s easy to lose sight of the greater goal in the midst of the average everyday stuff.  You forget about the long term goals sometimes when you just want the socks put away and someone to take the dog out before she goes, oops, too late. 

I was reminded of the long term stuff on Sunday while watching my girls perform their drama ( Yes, dealing with laundry is an important adult skill, but isn’t it more important that we want to worship God and do things to demonstrate that love? 

In one of my absolute favorite books, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey writes that we need to begin with the end in mind.  This certainly rings true in parenthood.  As parents, we are the biggest influence in our children’s lives.  Obviously, our children will ultimatly decide their career, spouse, and lifestyle, but we as parents are obligated to give them the greatest number of possibilites and the skills to make well informed and wise decisions. 

So in between homework, sports practice and investigating who is responsible for the new stain on the carpet, take some time to think about what you want the end result to be.  What would you consider the measure of a successful parenting career? 

Why? The Question of the Day

May 20, 2008 3 comments

We watched a friend’s two year old on Saturday.  I even dared to take my three along with the temporary addition to the store.  By myself.  I was amazed at how well it went.  There was no screaming, no yelling, no crying, and no uncontrollable tantrums in the middle of the aisle.  The four children also behaved very well.  I was asked at least three times what it was like to have four kids.  My wife said that people were amazed that a dad would actually take four kids to the store by himself.  I told the first person that only three were mine and that we found the other one in the parking lot.  Based on the initial look of horror, I revised my response the next time I was asked. 

The beauty of watching a younger child is that your children are totally fascinated by them.  My girls could not get over the little boy’s favorite word:  Why?  By my estimate, my children heard this one simple question 1,476,328 times today.  We’re going to the store.  Why?  Let’s eat lunch.  Why?  My personal favorite was when he said that he had to go potty, to which I said Okay, let’s go to the bathroom.  Why? 

Obviously, my children do not remember that they asked why a million times a day, but I do and gladly reminded them of it.  My middle child was exasperated by the simple little word but my oldest pointed out that this was the best way for a two year old to learn and when you’re two, there’s a lot to learn. 

My girls and I are currently reading a biography of Thomas Edison.  He never stopped asking why.  Sure, he was extremely smart, but his insatiable thirst for figuring things out made him a legend.  How many people existed at the time of Edison that were as smart or smarter that we have never heard of?  It is a great thing to hold on to that desire to learn.  We certainly will not all become legendary, but our lives would be so much fuller and richer by simply asking why?

Today, I will act a little bit more like a two year old.  Why?  I don’t know yet, but I intend on finding out 🙂