Posts Tagged ‘family’

Things I Hope My Children Learn From Me

June 16, 2008 Leave a comment

Excellence is always the best policy
Life is a journey so enjoy the ride
There is no such thing as too much integrity
Sometimes doing the right thing is hard, but it is still right
Everything decision in life has consequenses, some good, some bad
What you do is not who you are
Be true to yourself
Be true to God
Dream big
Believe in yourself
No matter what, in every circumstance, your father will always love you


Gymnastics and Geekiness

June 1, 2008 4 comments

My son and two daughters, who are sporting their hardware from the meet.

I have hit the pinnacle of my geekdom! I am sitting in a coffee shop downloading something on my girls’ gymnastics coach’s computer and posting on my blog from my blackberry. I have to admit. I love being a geek. My wife even got into the act by homeschooling our son during breaks in the meet
Enough about me, my girls had a meet today in Millersville, MD. It was a smaller meet and the girls compete at next year’s level. Mine are staying level 4. Although the scores were not as high as states, they both collected more hardware than in any other meet this season! I think the judges kept the scores lower to allow the girls room for improvement. I could be totally wrong as it is nearly impossible for me to tell the difference between good and great in this sport. Bad is detectable in any sport.
Back to my girls, My youngest daughter scored a first, third, fourth, and third all around. My oldest scored a second, third, fourth and third all around. The big victory is that my oldest made the podium more today than any other meet, possibly more than she did all season. she couldn’t stop smiling! There are so many things I love about this sport but one of the biggest is that everyone gets their playing time. No matter if your are pulling 9.9s or 5.0s, you get the same amount of time. Don’t get me wrong, you have to have skills to even make it to the team, but once you’re there, you don’t have to ride the bench. All season, my girls have been in the middle or back of the pack and have progressed nicely as the year moved along. This have them a taste of what they might experience next year. They are building crazy strength, strong charictar, and good work habits. It’s nice to collect some hardware every once in a while, too.

Memorial Day Weekend

May 26, 2008 Leave a comment

This ficweekend we have already celebrated Memorial Day with two picnics.  There was lots of fun.  Games were played, burgers were grilled, and way too much dessert was consumed.  I am happy to have the day off from work tomorrow.  We have already layed our our plans for tomorrow.  Isn’t that what Memorial Day is all about?  Fun, picnics, and the unofficial start of summer?  Wait a minute, aren’t we supposed to remember someone? 

Unfortunatly, our society has trouble remembering why we celebrate holidays.  It happens at Christmas.  It happens at Easter.  It’s happening this weekend.  Many times, I have thought that the commercialization of holidays was due to the lack of spirituality in our country, but this weekend, I see that it is more than that.  There is something in our culture that drives us to turn every holiday into a selfish event.  We live in a society that take a holiday that is meant to give thanks into a full day of glutony. 

I will be very honest with you.  I have never served in the military.  I was too chicken.  When I was eighteen, I was not man enough to serve my country.  I’ve grown up quite a bit in the last sixteen years.  However, I cannot change the past.  Through those sixteen years, I have grown to hold our military personnel in very high esteem.  Today, I am proud to say that I am an American citizen and that I live in the most free and greatest country in the world!

In the last year, I have developed a love for American history.  I have been reading biographies of presidents and historical accounts of the American Revolution.  I have read of the sacrifices that our forefathers made to form this great country.  I have read of the incredible forethought and insight that the fathers of this land had.  I have read and I have been amazed.

I am amazed at the sacrifice that our soldiers who are serving abroad make on a daily basis.  I don’t even want to miss any event that my children are involved in, no matter how trivial.  I cannot imagine leaving them for months at a time and not know if I will ever see them again.  I cannot imagine being in a situation where I must act because it’s either them or me.  I am amazed at the skill, training, and discipline that our military and veterans exhibit. 

I enjoy the freedom that we enjoy in this country.  I enjoy the safety that we have on our shores.  I stand and salute each and every veteran that has served or is currently serving.  I am grateful for every family that watches their sons and fathers go off to war and pray every night that they watch them return.  I mourn for every veteran that gave the ultimate sacrifice so that I can be free to be home with my family. 

To all veterans, thank you seems so inadequate.  God bless you! 

Parenthood and The Long Term Goals

May 23, 2008 1 comment

Being a father is an amazing thing.  If you have read over my blog, you can tell that my children are extremely important to me.  I’ve talked about homeschooling, gymnastics, and drama teams.  While each one of those things are important, they are all part of the greater goals that my wife and I have for our children. These goals include having a healthy Christ centered world view and being prepared to meet the challenges that they will face in adult life.  One of our greatest goals is that they have the ability to

It’s easy to lose sight of the greater goal in the midst of the average everyday stuff.  You forget about the long term goals sometimes when you just want the socks put away and someone to take the dog out before she goes, oops, too late. 

I was reminded of the long term stuff on Sunday while watching my girls perform their drama ( Yes, dealing with laundry is an important adult skill, but isn’t it more important that we want to worship God and do things to demonstrate that love? 

In one of my absolute favorite books, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey writes that we need to begin with the end in mind.  This certainly rings true in parenthood.  As parents, we are the biggest influence in our children’s lives.  Obviously, our children will ultimatly decide their career, spouse, and lifestyle, but we as parents are obligated to give them the greatest number of possibilites and the skills to make well informed and wise decisions. 

So in between homework, sports practice and investigating who is responsible for the new stain on the carpet, take some time to think about what you want the end result to be.  What would you consider the measure of a successful parenting career? 

Why? The Question of the Day

May 20, 2008 3 comments

We watched a friend’s two year old on Saturday.  I even dared to take my three along with the temporary addition to the store.  By myself.  I was amazed at how well it went.  There was no screaming, no yelling, no crying, and no uncontrollable tantrums in the middle of the aisle.  The four children also behaved very well.  I was asked at least three times what it was like to have four kids.  My wife said that people were amazed that a dad would actually take four kids to the store by himself.  I told the first person that only three were mine and that we found the other one in the parking lot.  Based on the initial look of horror, I revised my response the next time I was asked. 

The beauty of watching a younger child is that your children are totally fascinated by them.  My girls could not get over the little boy’s favorite word:  Why?  By my estimate, my children heard this one simple question 1,476,328 times today.  We’re going to the store.  Why?  Let’s eat lunch.  Why?  My personal favorite was when he said that he had to go potty, to which I said Okay, let’s go to the bathroom.  Why? 

Obviously, my children do not remember that they asked why a million times a day, but I do and gladly reminded them of it.  My middle child was exasperated by the simple little word but my oldest pointed out that this was the best way for a two year old to learn and when you’re two, there’s a lot to learn. 

My girls and I are currently reading a biography of Thomas Edison.  He never stopped asking why.  Sure, he was extremely smart, but his insatiable thirst for figuring things out made him a legend.  How many people existed at the time of Edison that were as smart or smarter that we have never heard of?  It is a great thing to hold on to that desire to learn.  We certainly will not all become legendary, but our lives would be so much fuller and richer by simply asking why?

Today, I will act a little bit more like a two year old.  Why?  I don’t know yet, but I intend on finding out 🙂